What would you do if you found out your idol was a racist or a homophobe? In 2019, it’s not such an unrealistic question: many of our celebrity “faves” are problematic, to say the least. But what if it was someone closer to home, a mentor, a nurse, a teacher? Someone who had had a guiding influence on your life? Even though I moved away … Continue reading Retro Hate
Confidence is sexy. Don’t ask me where I learned that, it’s just one of those things “everyone knows.” Surely you’ve learned this too, either in conversation or directly. As a person who’s never had much self-confidence to speak of, I can’t tally the number of times well-meaning friends have instructed me to simply “Be confident!” as though that is actually helpful life advice. They act … Continue reading Don’t Hate Me Because I Hate Me
Hell hath no fury like a man ignored. Or so I’ve learned. A couple of week’s ago, my partner and I were visiting her niece and nephews at her brother’s house. Her niece is old enough now that she remembers who I am, but still young enough that she hasn’t figured out that I’m a huge nerd, so I am taking full advantage of that … Continue reading Who Will Save Your Soul?
CW: discussion of childhood trauma, mention of assault The most traumatic part of my assault was actually a decision I made directly afterwards. I didn’t even realize I was making a decision, and at such a tender age I should’ve never been in a position to have had to make said decision. I had finally found my mother, the mission I’d originally been on when … Continue reading Choose You
CW: Discussion of depression, suicide, and mental health As a person who’s struggled with clinical Depression as long as she’s had memories, the concepts of “loving yourself” and “self-care” have always made me raise an eyebrow. Sure, I can get on board with those concepts in theory, but in practice? Now you’re pushing it. I stopped trying to talk about this with friends a long … Continue reading On Self-Hate