Feminine self-portrait, circa 2009

Femme’d Up

We all get “dressed up” for work in ways we wouldn’t dream of on our downtime, but if you’re a gender-not-normal person, this often includes an extra layer. Personally, I tend to “femme” myself up more than usual for work, which I don’t love, but it feels necessary. How “out” I’ve been at my place of employment has fluctuated over the years, so I’ll start … Continue reading Femme’d Up

Hannah Gadsby performing her show "Nanette" / Copyright © Ben King/Netflix

Coming out, Again and Again

“Coming out” is a bizarre rite-of-passage for queer folks. Part of what makes it so bizarre is it isn’t like there’s one “coming out” you do, like a Quinceañera, and then you’re set. You have the pleasure (or misfortune) of coming out over and over again in difference situations. Unless you gathered ALL of your family together for one big announcement, you probably come out … Continue reading Coming out, Again and Again

Mulan © Disney 1998

Mulan, Trans Hero of my Heart

This was not the post I was going to write today, but after getting called “transphobic” and “a piece of utter shit” for saying I read the character of Mulan as transgender, I thought I might as well go all in. Let’s start with some background: Hua Mulan was not a real person. Mulan is a “historical figure” in the same way that Odysseus is … Continue reading Mulan, Trans Hero of my Heart